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Manolo Blahnik, Jimmy Choo, Alexander McQueen, Maud Frizon, Christian Lacroix, and Christian Louboutin, these are heroes to Rupert de Borchgrafve whose love of designer high heels dates back to the 1970s. "High heels are in essence about sex," he says. "They separate girls from ladies, and unite the footwear tastes of men and women."
My life-long love affair with high heels started in high school where my French teacher, Mrs. Cooke, sat atop her desk with slim legs crossed high, high heels dangling from her dainty toes.
It was Mrs. Cooke who made me realize that females come in two varieties: girls and women.
High heels are for women. It takes a woman to walk properly in heels. It takes a woman's confidence and assurance to be comfortable in them and aware that they are a focus of men's gazes and glances.
Sexy high heels
Of all the different types of female footwear: workout and running shoes, ballet flats, espadrilles, platforms, sandals, and pumps, it is high heels that are without doubt the sexiest.
High heels are the point at which men's and women's interests can coincide. A red-blooded man can get bored silly if his girlfriend or wife drags him from store to store looking for jogging shoes or flats for work, but when the focus of her attention is spiked-heel, black pumps with a pointed toe, the man is keen to see every shoe slid onto her feet, the beautiful lines formed from shoe to leg calling from the deep to his primal, sexual instincts.
Long legs in heels, all the way to heaven
Baby, just lie back and let me enjoy you
What makes you think I am qualified for the job?
Aware of the power of her sexuality, a woman in high heels is bold, strong, and confident. The heels grasp her slim foot, her calf muscles are firm and toned, her butt is pushed out and presses against her clothes so that her buttocks resemble a firm peach with an erotically charged line between each cheek.
As an undergraduate at a large city university in Europe, my first serious girlfriend was not one of my jeans-clad fellow students but a young secretary called Yvonne, who worked in the university accounts department. She was proud of making her own money, loved being able to buy good clothes and sexy shoes. She wore tight skirts to work and elegant black pumps with a low but nonetheless alluring spiked heel.
Some of my best memories from my early twenties are of stroking Yvonne's crossed legs. I would cup her calf muscles in the palm of my hands, run my fingers along the tops of her feet, trace the line where her shoes met her lovely feet.
High heels love
When I had known Yvonne long enough to suggest that we spend weekend nights together in my room in town (I lived off campus, refusing to stay in dorms and shared rooms), I coyly suggested that she wear her high heels when we made love. I adored feeling her legs wrapped around my back, the heels sometimes scratching my skin, adding further electric charge to the shocking erotic atmosphere.
Sophisticated women
When I graduated, I was moved back to the States and was forced to leave Yvonne. I dated a number of suburban, flip-flop wearing women in their mid-twenties whose choice of footwear always disappointed me. I longed for the sophistication of real women, professional and self-confident, women who did not chew gum, flip and flop around the mall, wear shorts and t-shirts.
I longed to see figure-hugging skirts and tops, blouses thin enough to make out the texture of the bra beneath. And most of all I longed for a woman wearing high heels.
No flip flops
Occasionally, one of my flip-flop girlfriends would wear a pair of heels, but years of wearing dull, safe suburban footwear can leave a young woman unable to walk in anything but flats. A woman who cannot walk in heels is far from elegant. She's not even vulnerably sexy. It's an ugly sight to be avoided. There's an art to walking in high heels which must be acquired, much as it takes time to learn the piano or a foreign language.
Spanish sex appeal
My dreams came true when I dated a successful Spanish writer living in Chicago. Her dress sense was both spectacular and immaculate. She oozed sex appeal in a way that is impossible for Midwestern women, most of whom are too scared, conservative and uptight to wear outfits and footwear that so much as whisper "sex". The Midwest can be oh so dull if you want sexy sophistication.
My Spanish love, Frida, was the first woman I knew who could, and would, spend more than $500 on a pair of shoes, $2000 on a skirt or dress, $50 or more on pantyhose or stockings. She wore exquisite lingerie, even to work. She never wore inexpensive undergarments. It was essential, she said, that all her clothing, from intimate apparel to coats and capes, be of the highest quality and cut.
Aki Choklat
With Frida, I was introduced to Manolo Blahnik, Jimmy Choo, Aki Choklat, Alexander McQueen, Christian Louboutin, and Maud Frizon. She bought a pair of black, high-heeled Manolo Blahniks for exclusive use as love-making shoes. She would wear them to fire my loins, keeping them on in bed, dangling them from her toes, or pushing the heel or pointed toe gently into my back or chest. She adored being mounted while wearing those Blahniks. It made both of us scream and moan with utter delight.
With Frida, I knew that any woman I dated or married would have to share my interest in quality high heels. I am able to cope with the hooker or slut look, the plastic $30 heels, but I much prefer a woman to wear shoes that cost at least $100 and preferably much more. In shoes, quality commands a high price. If you pay $500, you know you are getting a shoe that is perfect in its craftsmanship and its artistry.
I waited a surprisingly long time to get married, unable to find my perfect woman until I was 42. She was, and is, a deliciously gorgeous lady from South Africa named Amicia, who writes about food, landscape gardening, and interior design.
Amicia introduced me to the sexy delight of open-toed sandals and pumps, the absolute necessity of luxury pedicures, and the need for shoes not only to be of the highest quality but also comfortable. Amicia says the beauty of Manolo Blahniks is that his high heels are comfortable. They are designed as works of art to be worn, not like many expensive shoes, designed to be seen but not worn, and certainly not walked in.
Together we have chosen at least 10 pairs of bedroom shoes, "dangerous shoes" as she called them, whose purpose is to heighten erotic tension. They are worn before and during love-making. I will often slip them onto Amicia's feet when our passions are almost peaking. They add that flourish that's required to reach even higher peaks of desire before we both collapse into deep pools of satiated desire.
By Rupert de Borchgrafve
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