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Fire up your love life after 45
Most married women over 45 want more sex with their husbands. They want sex to last longer, be emotionally deeper and more satisfying. They are often bored with the sex that their husbands have to offer, which is brief, routine, and frustrating.
Men of the same age want more sex too, but they often say their wives have ceased to interest them, or they believe, sometimes rightly, that they have stopped being sexually exciting to their wives.
Women over 45 complain that their husbands develop unhealthy interests in cyber sex, chat rooms, and downloading erotic video clips and images. They cannot understand why a husband does this when he has a wife at home willing to give him all he craves.
Husbands on the other hand don't believe that their wives are willing to give them the sex they want. For a man, a wife's wishes are too often interwoven with a need for romance and emotional warmth. Men long for a rawer type of sex, a purely tension-relieving physical activity which satisfies a basic urge.
Sharon Stone, hot, single, and over 50
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What so many husbands have not understood is that their wives are willing to give them this. Wives will wear lingerie and high heels, they'll explore new positions and locations for sex. They welcome variety --quickies mixed with longer love-making sessions -- but they are waiting for their husbands to take the initiative.
Wives don't wish to hurt their husband's feelings by being too demanding or pushy. Women are well aware that the male ego is tremendously frail in sexual matters. Nothing bursts a male bubble faster than being told he can't, or isn't, satisfying a woman.
Satisfy your woman
Unfortunately, many women learn to build their lives around their husband's needs and wishes. So long as the husband is happy, the wife figures life is easier for everybody. Husbands have learned to believe that their sexual wishes are paramount. As long as the husband reaches climax, he believes that all is well. But this, sadly, is not the case.
Preparing for pleasure
Equally sad is the lack of communication in many marriages, especially about sex. Wives dare not tell their husbands they are not satisfied, and husbands are afraid of saying they are bored and want more. Both are waiting for the other to start the conversation.
A man might feel embarrassed and ashamed about his inability to sustain a firm erection, a woman might feel resentful about a man's lack of patience in bed. Women need to tell men that it can take time to arouse them sufficiently to make penetration pleasurable. Men must learn to be open and honest about their desires.
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Women should also be more vocal about what they find distasteful. If a husband is spending too much time looking at erotic material online, he needs to be told so. Likewise, if he is not paying sufficient attention to his wife's need, it needs to be said. No one is a mind reader. Satisfying sex lives cannot be built around guesswork.
I once talked to a couple where the man wished he could "talk dirty" in bed, and his wife said, I've been waiting and longing for you to do that
. Neither of them had communicated their desire to the other.
Similarly if there are things a partner finds distasteful and do not wish to try, they need to say so rather than endure it or avoid all sex simply to avoid one specific activity.
The main lesson from all I have learned is that women over 45 are sexually alert. They want lots of satisfying sex, preferably with their husbands. But they don't want routine and they don't want sex completely on their husband's terms.
Robin Givens
The climax
Men need to take time to arouse and satisfy their women; they need to learn to bring their wife to climax before they penetrate or reach orgasm. The old in-out routine is not going to do it for most women.
Most of all, both sexes need to improve their communication skills. Say what you want, tell each other what you need. Be prepared to help each other. Satisfying sex is all about the giving and taking of pleasure.
Your questions answered: How often do married couples have sex?; Can sex ever be fun again?; How can I help my husband enjoy sex more?
By Athina Simonidou