Choosing lingerie for a lady
Buying lingerie for your special lady can be one of your most loving and romantic gestures toward her. But it can also be a minefield. Lingerie is a deeply private matter. Your lady wants to feel comfortable and confident in her intimate apparel. And you, as her husband, partner, or lover, do not want to get it wrong and hurt her feelings.
Men are visual beings for whom lingerie is closely associated with sex and sex appeal. A man's desire is to choose something daring and provocative for his woman. But he knows this might cause offense, so he tires to play it safe, often getting it wrong.
It is better to buy an exclusive, pretty, and feminine item rather than something obviously slutty and sexual. A pretty and feminine bra and panty set can be just as sexy and seductive as items intended for bedroom use only.
Your lady will most appreciate lingerie than she can wear outside the bedroom as well as in it. Your woman wants to feel attractive and sexy, not cheap and slutty.
Then there is the matter of size and color. Your woman can easily be easily offended if you buy panties that are too big or a bra which was too small.
Lingerie color
If you take a look into your partner's wardrobe, you'll spot her favourite colours. This will help you buy lingerie that will make her mosthappy.
Bra size
To keep your gift a secret you should sneak a peek at the label in her favorite bra and brief. She'll be pleasantly surprised when you get it right. Upscale stores such as London's Rigby and Peller can advise on sizing because brands vary.
Women adore the feel of lingerie on their skin
Japanese gravure idol Emi Kobayashi
Model in lingerie
Dita von Teese in classic lingerie
Lingerie style
Size is one thing, but it's not enough. The style is just as important. As a rule of thumb we advise purchasing something pretty, feminine and sexy. Women don't find practical bras a romantic gift.
To pick the right bra you should also take a good look at what she's wearing most. Does she prefer tight clothing, deep necklines or loose clothing?
Half cup bra
The design of this style of bra provides a beautiful shape and a more enhanced cleavage. A half cup bra is not recommended for women with a bust size over a D cup.
Full cup bra
This style of bra is recommended for women with a fuller bust. For women with a DD cup upwards, it is the recommended style for the best support for everyday wear.
Wired bra
Underwired bras support and give a smooth line while holding the breasts within the cups.
Push-up bra
An underwired balcony bra will push the bust up to give a beautiful cleavage. This style of bra has a low neck line.
Strapless bra
Strapless bras or bras with removable straps will enable your partner to wear outfits without straps.
Gift wrapping
Men do not usually like to gift wrap, but women feel incredibly spoiled when they receive a beautifully wrapped and presented gift. Ask the store to gift wrap for you.
By Tiffers von Tien
Readers respond
Gert, Eindhoven So many marriages could be saved or made even better if couples could just learn to play in bed. Sex should be fun, not a job, not hard work. Thank you for pointing out that role play can be the spice that is needed to revive a tired marriage.
Bruce, Dublin This is great in theory, but what do you do if your wife won't play. My old lady just wants it the regular way with the lights off. If I told her I needed playtime in the bedroom, she would never open her legs.
Simone, Brussels The main thing men need to do is take time and build up a love-making atmosphere. They should not rush their woman. And they need to get in shape and lose their beer bellies.
